So Far Away

I stumbled across this article a few days ago and immediately recognized the idea as one that makes so much sense, I assumed it had already been done – a Carole King jukebox musical on Broadway. Apparently one is in the works, though the NY Post write up breathlessly describes a reading of the script that happened last May as it it were the most remarkable and recent development. Do things really happen that slowly in the world of musical theater? Well, a lot of Ms. King’s songs are thoughtful and unhurried. And it was a long summer.

If the show ever gets launched, let’s hope it includes this song.

Doesn’t anybody stay in one place anymore? Let’s look at it on the residence level. Where have you lived the longest?

118 thoughts on “So Far Away”

  1. Fargo is my birthplace one year
    Brainerd two years
    Bloomington 57-69
    Bloomington 69-2004
    Portland and lake 1972
    White bear lake1973
    Hopkins 73-75
    Edina 1975-1997
    Back to finish off bloomington97-04
    Eden prairie04- til now

    Good exercise dale a quick run through memory lane of life and roommates
    Back to reminisce about details in a bit. I’m off to basketball with daughter but I can iPad it now thanks anna

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  2. We settled in my college town to raise our kids and haven’t left. Our families live in Michigan. Our kids flew the coop as we did: one to Chicago and one to Florida by way of New York. We are looking forward to having them home for Christmas.
    Whenever I think about this topic I think of our ancestors traveling over here on the boat. They never saw their folks again.

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    1. Enjoy the kids holly
      Any holidays gigs for your pickin and grinnin String band?
      Never able to go home again was true then as now but in different terms and details

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  3. Forgot about the vw bus 73-74 parked west of here that year. Canadian Rockies en route to southern California before coming back to home base with odd jobs and national parks as part of the equation

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    1. I’m sure it is really not much fun living in Painsville, Clyde. I hope you can move on to Pain Under Control Ville or Painlessville.

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  4. Good morning to all. We have lived in our house in Clarks Grove for close to 30 years. That is the longest time I have lived any place. I was born in Wisconsin where most of my relatives live and where my parents grew up. Most of my childhood and young adult years were spent in Michigan, but I went to graduate school in Indiana and lived there as a young married person for a while after graduating before moving to Minnesota.

    There are memories attached to all of these places and I think writing about the places I have lived, including every house or apartment, would be a good way to write memoir about my life.

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  5. 21 years in Duluth; i am hoping like mad that we’ll have 21 years in Blackhoof, but we’ll see.
    all the Goat Ladies of the North are congregating here today – always so much fun. no officers, no minutes, no bylaws, no dues, no strategic planning – just gab about our goats. catch ya tomorrow
    hope you have as warm and friendly day as we will have.

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      1. The book club minutes are great, Anna. Well, I think it is okay to have minutes, at least for the book club, but no third associate vice-presidents, Clyde..

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      2. i nominate clyde to be named third associate vice president in charge of nominating third assocoate vice presidents in other ares of need in case there are ever other areas of need

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      3. Anna, glad you opted for delighted. I think the reason we don’t think of your notes as minutes, is that they’re so delightful. More like footnotes!

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  6. I feel so…homebody-ish. I have lived in the same 3 mile range of SW Mpls for more than half my life. Admittedly, I did travel all the way to St. Paul for college and returned to that side of the river after a few months in Grand Marais and then St. Anthony. Then moved to N Mpls for a year or so, back to south Mpls and a late 19th century duplex…and now around the corner from the library from my childhood. The grocery store where I shop used to be the bowling alley my dad went to with his pals in high school. The pharmacist at my local Walgreens when I first moved to this house was a gal I had played flute with in junior high band. My little corner of the world is a lot like an urban small town, and I’m okay with that.

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    1. someone once told ma new york city is not a big city but a whole bunce of small cities that all bump into each other under the heading of new york city. i have looked a ctities differently since then. minneapolis is a very good example, st paul may be the best example on the planet.

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  7. Luverne-18 years
    Moorhead-4 years
    Winnipeg-6 years
    Columbus, Indiana-1 year
    Dickinson, ND-3 mos
    Winnipeg-4 mos
    Dickinson-3 years
    Knoxville, IA-1 year
    Dickinson-20 years

    The other day my husband said about our current town-“What a strange place to want to live”. I imagine we will live here for many more years. It all depends on where our children end up. With our luck, one will settle in Portland Or and one will settle in Portland ME. It is sad that many long term residents are leaving because they don’t like the changes happening because of the oil boom.

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    1. well if you grew up thinking life was supposed to be watching the wheat grow then i imagine guys in trucks can be disturbing, if it is opportunity you want to craft a new life or chunk of life, eastern north dakota is manna from heaven. portland and portland eh. i see youd like to stay north

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      1. Son and wife love Fargo. They hope there will be a job there for our son when he is finished with his MA, but I suspect they will have to move. He will look for a job at a college or university counseling center, so that could take them anywhere. Neither us nor our children can stand hot and humid weather. Daughter just wants to go to college as far away from home as possible, but that attitude may change as the time gets closer for her to decide.

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  8. I’m in a hurry, but it is a short story, quickly told:

    First 18 years in Ames, Iowa, with temporary posting to Manchester, IA, during the war;

    Next 51 years in Twin Cities . . .

    of which 35 years have been in this home.

    It is good to have roots.

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  9. I have been in the same 2-mile radius for more than 30 years. This is a very happy thing for me, because as a child, my family moved and moved and moved. By the time I got to college, I had already attended 11 different schools. Although I don’t regret moving so much as a child, since it made me the person I am, I did make a conscious decision to stay put as an adult and as a parent!

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    1. My family moved quite a few times, but almost always within the same school system, so I was lucky. Getting used to your new neighborhood is much easier if there’s continuity in school.

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  10. That Carole King line has always bothered me; it implies people were once less itinerant. I did a graduate school interdisciplinary study on itinerancy in American literature and history. People never stayed in one place much. A study in about 1960, as I recall it, said the average American had lived in 7 places.
    I think of the place where I grew up, the farm west of Two Harbors, as my parents “permanent” home. But they only lived there for 16 years, my ages 4 to 20. They lived in Duluth for a dozen years, and then in retirement went onto Brookings SD, where I think we all assumed they would live for a few years and die. My mother lived in Brookings for over 25 years, by far the longest place she ever lived, and then a nursing home in Sioux Falls another 3. So, barb in Blackhoof, you may be there for quite awhile.
    I have had 13 different addresses in my life, counting a dorm and a fraternity in college as two address, or is that just one place? In all
    Sebeka, MN
    Isabella, MN
    Two Harbors
    Chicago
    Chicago
    Minneapolis
    St. Paul
    Minneapolis
    Lindstrom
    Two Harbors
    North Mankato
    Mankato
    Mankato
    And I do not think of myself as particularly itinerant.

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    1. clyde you must allow artists to be artists. if we used your list as truth of life in america it would be true but carols lines work better for the tune. cut the artists a little slack would you?
      so far away donesn’t anybody leave home with about the same frequency as has benn historically customary anymore? it would be so fine to see you face at the same door where i have resided for the last 4 1/ 2 years which is a typical amount of time for many americans in this there 7th dwelling so far in this lifetime. with 3.7 more expected before i stop.
      this may be true but the tempo kind of bogs down don’t you think?

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    2. You would think a rural town, like Clarks Grove, would have plenty of people who have lived here for a long time. I was told there was a time when everyone in the town knew all of the people living in town, but that is no longer true. An old neighbor who has passed away, said there were only three homes where people lived who he thought of as long term residents. I think there are a number of families who have lived in this area for a long time, but they have moved from one place to another and are not long term residents of the place they are currently living. Also, Clarks Grove has a large group of people who work in other communities and are only here at night and on weekends. .

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  11. Newport 1 year
    East St. Paul 3 years, two different addresses
    St. Croix Cove 5 years
    Livermore California 1 year
    Hudson 8 years, first the duplex then the house
    East St. Paul 1 year
    Alexandria 4 years
    St. Paul 7 years, two different apartments
    West Side 23 1/2 years and counting.

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  12. No contest at all, St. Paul, Minnesota. I’ve lived in St. Paul 35 years, 26 of them in this old house on the West Side.
    But I flitted about quite a bit prior to settling down here. In sequence here are the places I’ve lived:
    Newcastle on Tyne – 2 years
    Drogheda, Ireland – 1 year
    Stubbekøbing, Denmark – 8 years
    Nykøbing, Denmark – 3 years, boarding school – so overlapping with the 8 years above
    Lyngby, Denmark – 5 years
    Virum, Denmark – 6 months
    Basel, Switzerland – 1 year
    Hellerup, Denmark – 1 year
    Moscow, USSR – 1 year
    Bagsværd, Denmark – 1 year
    Valby, Denmark – 6 months
    Søndrestrømfjord, Greenland – 9 months
    Cheyenne, Wyoming – 2 years and 6 months
    Greenport, Long Island – 3 months (with my former in-laws, very long three months!)
    Carbondale, Illinois – 4 years
    New Brighton, Minnesota – 1 year
    Minneapolis, Minnesota – 1 year
    Inver Grove Heights, Minnesota – 6 years
    St. Paul, Minnesota – 35 years – 29 of them on the West Side

    When I recently had my car in for a new master cylinder for my clutch, my curmudgeonly mechanic commented that not many people would repair the clutch in such an old car (1998). I told him I hoped this was my last car, to which he responded: “Oh, your death car.” Perhaps this old house is my death house. Who knows?

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  13. I’ve lived in this town since 1977. My goal when I retire is to move to a place where nobody knows me, except for an offspring or two and a few baboon misfits. (I was never happier about being a misfit than the day tim gave us that name.)

    Man – I played my Carole King Tapestry album over and over as a teen. I still have it in a crate in the basement. Child of Mine was a Morning Show favorite.

    Did you kids hear the Tom Keith bit on PHC last week? So clever and bittersweet.
    And did you hear the St.Olaf concert on Sunday afternoon? My Boston Pops Christmas CD does not hold a candle to those Oles!

    Read the blog all week but fell asleep on the couch too tired to post.This is my answer to a good night’s sleep – you just need to be exhausted enough after being with first graders all day who are revved up about Santa Claus. I did catch David Letterman’s Top Ten about the drunken news anchor. He even showed the clip. Hell – I’ve been drunker than that! Funniest local news anchor I ever saw was a young gal doing the weather and someone was messing with the audio and playing elephants trumpeting and other safari noises in the background. She tried to get through the report but burst out laughing several times.

    Had a freaky dream last night. Suze Orman was molesting me.

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      1. Freudian stuff must seep into my subconscious when I fall asleep with the tv on – especially during pledge week! (Only additive I’d indulged in was ginger ale.)

        PJ – a while back you asked if dog from my past was named after Scout from To Kill a Mockingbird. You were correct. You are very intuitive for a foreigner. 😉

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    1. When my son was naturalized he was very upset about having to give up his alien registration card. Being a registered alien was impressive in 6th grade

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  14. As a child, 14 or so years in St. Louis Park (minus college dorms and other school-related residences).
    As an adult, 12 years and counting as of Dec. 31, 2012 here in beautiful Owatonna. My wife and I hope to stay here for another 20 years at least, depending on health, cold tolerance, etc.

    Chris in Owatonna

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    1. Either you’re 26 years old or have left out some other places! I’m hoping the latter, otherwise I’d revise the expectancy of another 20 years or so in Owatonna upward.

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      1. I left out other places because Dale asked where we have lived the longest. DIdn’t want to bore anyone with my rather mundane (compared to many others here) residence history. 🙂

        Chris

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  15. My middle years were my most transient… at my 10 year college reunion I was given the award for the most moves since graduation (10 moves during those 10 years). My current home has held me the longest (23 years), as this was the place we choose to raise our children. Once the momentum is lost, it seems the will to pick up & move again has also been lost. But I agree with Steve… it IS nice to finally have roots. All told, I’ve made more than 20 moves in my lifetime (not counting the various tents, motels, the sailboat and the International Harvester I inhabited while working for a mining company in Montana in the late 70’s). The early years were spent in California, followed by moves to Washington, Colorado, and Montana before making my way to Minnesota (with a total of eight different MN addresses). All of this makes me sound REALLY old… but, really, I’m not! 😉

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      1. I grew up in Monterey Park (just east of LA), attended college in Thousand Oaks and moved out-of-state in the late ’70s. Moved back (to Twin Peaks in the San Bernardino Mountains) for a spell in the late ’80s. I loved growing up there… it was a different place back then and I enjoyed every moment of it!

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      1. It was a 1963 International Harvester Scout… I learned to sleep comfortably in the back while working in the field. Spent a month camping out in it in the middle of the Nevada desert at one point. I used to settle in at night & listen to Mystery Theater on the truck radio… made for some anxious nights and I kept my knife nearby (you never know who’s going to be wandering around out there in the pitch darkness hundreds of miles from civilization… right?). Lots of fond memories with that old vehicle!

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  16. I love reading all the places that people have lived. I am a traveller and my husband is a homebody. When we got together, I hadn’t lived in one address for more than a year since leaving home. Now we’ve been at this address for 13 years. Here’s my list:

    Venice, CA 19 years
    Madrid, Spain 1 year
    Venice, CA 5 months
    Berkeley, CA 2 years (with summers in Venice, CA and Hamburg, Germany)
    San Francisco, CA 1 year (there for the earthquake)
    Edinburgh, Scotland 6 months
    Darvel, Scotland, 3 months
    Rijswijk, Netherlands 5 months
    Darvel, Scotland, 5 months
    Berkeley, CA 2 years (2 different addresses)
    Minneapolis, MN 4 years (2 different addresses)
    Saint Paul, MN 13 years (same house)

    I change jobs every five years or so, and I tell everyone that I’m not allowed to divorce my husband or move, so I gotta get my changes in somewhere!

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    1. txutxi, welcome to the trail. Are you independently wealthy or were your stints in Europe job or study related?

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      1. I’m a longtime lurker, though mostly on the weekends. I was in school in Madrid, a maid in Germany, worked as a temp at an insurance company in Edinburgh, worked for room and board and babysat in the Netherlands, and was “in love” in Darvel, Scotland.

        Until I grew up and got a real job, I would work as a temp secretary or receptionist until I had enough money to travel/live somewhere else. I had no furniture, no apartment, no nothing. Then I got tired of it, and came home and soon after met my now husband the homebody.

        Edinburgh was a great place to live. I especially loved being there in the summer with the very long twilights. I would walk home from the pub after work, and smell the breweries output. Good smells! And the music and dancing scene was fantastic!

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    2. txutxi, thanks for sharing; you sound like a kindred spirit. Please join us when you can and feel like it. I, for one, would love to learn more about you.

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  17. Nevada, Iowa
    Amanda Colony, Iowa
    LeMars, Iowa 2 years
    Malvern, Iowa
    LeMars, Iowa 13 years
    Ames, iowa
    Boone, Iowa
    Grand Rapids, MN
    Minneapolis, MN
    St. Paul, Mn
    Fairmont, MN
    Shakopee, MN
    Eden Prairie,Mn. 21 years

    I am a gypsy. Sitting in a cafe in Phoenix. 57 degrees. They think it is cold!

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    1. I’ve probably asked this before, Jacque, but were the Ames years at ISU, like me but about 10 years later? (mine was ’66-70)

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  18. Afternoon–

    I haven’t moved much… we used to be RR1. Got a street address sometime in the early ’70’s I think. Early ’90’s our neighbors and us got a letter from the post office stating ‘We were a problem within the overall addressing scheme’ and given a new address.
    But we never actually ‘moved’.
    Well, I did move from the old house to the machine shed for a summer while the new house was being built. Yep, lived in the machine shed. Then after I got married I moved from a downstairs bedroom to the upstairs master bedroom…. so … yeah; not much variety there.

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  19. Greetings! I haven’t moved very much. The first 19 years were in Green Bay, WI and then I moved to Minneapolis to finish college. We moved around the Twin Cities quite a bit from one apartment to another. When we finally moved to Big Lake, we were in our house for 12 years — longest ever in one place. But that was foreclosed and now we’re in a rental house — we’ll probably move to somewhere smaller/cheaper in a couple years when Ben starts college. Not really sure — our situation is way too fluid. Jim just lost his job now, too — so life is feeling really uncertain right now.

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    1. Oh Joanne…this economy has been especially rough on you and your family. Poop (and that’s not the word I’d like to use). Hoping you and Jim both find good, solid work in the new year.

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    2. There are 18,000 job openings in ND and nowhere to live where the jobs are most plentiful. Cass county, where Fargo is, has lots of open jobs and affordable housing. I will pray for two wonderful jobs to open up in your neck of the woods just for you and Jim.

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    3. we thought we reitred at a very bad time, but i think it would be waaaaaay worse to be younger and trying to keep or find a job right now. i feel for you, Joanne. so sorry – and always right before the holidays. yuck.

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      1. Jim is looking for Electronic Technician or Mechanical Assembly type of work. I’m looking for administrative, clerical or data entry type of work. Preferably within 25 miles of Big Lake. These are not high-paying jobs, so driving long distances to work doesn’t make sense in most situations — but we’re going to have to cast a wider net I’m afraid.

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  20. OT – Though I thought my protesting days were over, husband and I just back from demonstrating with the Occupy Minnesota group from St. Paul this afternoon. Only twenty or so hardy souls waving signs at traffic, both on the freeway and on Snelling, from the Snelling Ave. bridge over I-94. Lots of folks waving back and honking their horns in a show of support.

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    1. Good for you PJ! It’s good to see OWS making waves and letting the robber barons know how we see their workings. I hope OWS puts together a solid agenda and specific plan of action to make changes. And thank you all for your kind words and uplifting prayers — every bit helps.

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  21. one of my favorite star trek episodes is the one where they were discovering new art work by one master and undiscovered music by another master and they all turned out to be the same guy who lived forever and had to keep moving around to keep people from discovering he was immortal. where would you go if tou were going to live forever?

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    1. New York city or just stay put. We don’t know what the future will bring so there is no way to know what a person who is immortal will face as the world gets older. It’s either go to one of the most interesting places, New York City, or stay put and see what happens to the place I know.

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  22. Wow, this is fun to read where all of where everyone’s been –

    Cedar Falls, Iowa – 3 months (while my dad finished college)
    Storm Lake, Iowa – 11 years (3 houses that I remember, 3 schools), minus:
    Greeley, Colorado – 3 summers in a trailer (Dad’s grad school)
    Marshalltown, Iowa – 7 years + a 3 months rebound
    Ames, Iowa – 4 years
    San Francisco – 2 years
    El Granada, CA (by Half Moon Bay) – 2 years
    Brooklyn NY – 1 year 9 months 27 days
    Minneapolis – 4 years.
    Lewiston MN – farm near there – 6 months
    Winona – 9 months
    Muncie, Indiana – 15 months (Husband’s grad school)
    Winona – 2 years
    Minneapolis – 4 years
    and the winner is: Robbinsdale – going on 23 years!

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    1. Barbara, I’m chuckling at the 27 days part of your Brooklyn stay. Were you counting the days until you could leave, or were you sorry to have to go?

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      1. Oh, no! I had no prejudices, but my parents looked down on Boone as “a railroad town.” I had no idea what they meant by that, but they clearly thought Boone was rougher and less respectable. When Spaghet (our village idiot) shot up the Phillips 66 station, Boone was where he hid until the furor was over.

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      2. A railroad town-I think that means that people are on call 24/7, the husbands (usually) have no regular schedule and are gone for long periods of time, (paving the way for infidelity on both sides, you know), as well as copious drinking and drugging. Kids are wild and rough and poorly behaved. We have lots of “railroad” towns here, Mandan and Glendive, MT, as the two that come to mind.

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  23. my wifes parents are from havana il down by peoria, they moved to chicago but have family down there so they chec back every year and have reunions regularly, now they are 70ish and they found a retirement community in florida where they all live in double wides for 6 months out of the year and eeveryone there is from or has a connection to the havana il area, its a funny place full of people who all have similar tastes and views of the world. maybe we could try an end of the trail double wide park in a warm place? i think their deluxe home st ups sell for 40 thousand or so with all utilities and maintanance added in after the fact. i hate their vibe but ill bet they would hate the end of the trail vibe too. bunch of damn hippies

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  24. shall we shop florida californoa arizona minnesota or alaska or how avout nova scotia or denmark?
    or honduras? new zealand is on my bucket list, i just have a feelng i could step off the plane and set down my bag and never ick it up.

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  25. Some of you have really interesting histories. I’ve always been pretty close to where I am right now.

    I was born in Minneapolis and lived in St. Paul for three years while dad was finishing dental school (Commonwealth Terrace on the university campus). We moved to Owatonna when I was three and lived 1/2 in Owatonna and 1/2 at Cannon Lake (Faribault) until I was 11 (8 years). We moved to Cannon Lake permanently when I was 11 and I lived there until I was 18 (7 years). I think of our lake place as my family home.

    I went to St. Olaf and lived in Northfield for a year (’77 – ’78). I moved to rural Nerstrand in the summer of 1978 and lived there for three years, then moved back to Faribault where I lived until 1987 (6 years). Those nine years were my most restless years – I rented apartments without leases and/or lived with friends. I went to technical college and got my nursing license.

    I lived in rural Le Sueur County (near Montgomery) from ’87 – ’89, then moved back to Northfield and attended St. Olaf part-time (4 years). In 1993, I bought my first house in Faribault and sold it in May 1999 (6 years).

    I bought my current home in Waterville in May 1999 and I’ve lived here ever since, making this (and Cannon Lake) my longest residence – I can hardly believe I’ve been here for 12 years. I don’t think my house would sell for what I paid, so here I sit. I’d love to go back to my free life-style, renting and moving when I want to. Someday, hopefully soon, I will.

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  26. It was good to be a stranger in a land when you felt aggressive and acquisitive, but when you began to weave your horizons into some kind of shelter it was good to know that hands you loved had helped in their spinning – made you feel as if the threads would hold together better.

    – Zelda Fitzgerald

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      1. It was, and two weeks later the damned fuel pump quit while I was driving on the freeway. Spent big $$$$s on that car this month, hopefully I’m good to go for a long time! Sorry, I can’t make it to game night.

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