I never took any Psychology classes during any of my college years. I have nothing against Psychology (and have benefited from it greatly during my life) but I just wanted to get my science requirements out of the way and Psych wasn’t offered when I needed a science class. Most of my psychology education comes from various Scientific American articles I’ve read over the years.
I think it’s safe to say that as a parent, one REALLY needs psychology. You just can’t make it through parenthood without figuring out your kids AND figuring out how to get your kids motivated to do what they need to get done. YA is almost 28 and I still struggle with this occasionally.
One of the things I have figured out is that sometimes you have to come at her sideways. She is too cool to get enthusiastic over some of my projects; when I brought home the haunted house kit (see photo above), she turned up her nose at it a bit. If she had been with me when I purchased it, she would have indicated it was not a good idea. But a few days ago I said “I’m going to do the haunted house tonight if you want to help”. She responded with a non-committal grunt but when I got everything set up on the dining room table, she showed up. And she did most of the decorating herself. This works pretty much all of the time… Easter egg dying, jigsaw puzzles, yardwork, cookie decorating. It even worked once on a snorkel sail when she was crabby and I said “Fine, you don’t have to go… I’ll see you later.”
If you take this route though, you have to be prepared to do the project by yourself; I think you really have to believe this or they hear it in your voice and then you’re sunk!
How to you talk your loved ones into things?