The month of March was pretty difficult for our daughter. Early in the month she rear ended a large pickup with her Subaru Forester. She was only driving about 30 mph at the time when the pickup in front of her stopped suddenly. She was cited for following too close. The pickup sustained no damage. There was only $3000 damage to the front end of her car, but, since all eight of the air bags deployed, the insurance company wrote her car off. It would cost $16,000 to repair them. This, then, entailed her getting a rental vehicle, waiting for the damage estimate and the insurance cheque to get deposited in her account, and the purchase of a new vehicle. There were tons of phone calls to me, with her in anxious agony when adjusters didn’t get back to her when they said they would or when the cheque wasn’t deposited when it was promised. (The local car dealership was having a great sale on new Subarus, and she wanted to get in on the deal. They told her to just write them a cheque and they wouldn’t cash it until the insurance payment arrived. Since the insurance payment was late, there was angst and heartburn that the cheque to the car dealership was going to bounce.) This is the second car she has totaled in three years. Thank goodness the insurance company isn’t going to cancel her policy. She lives in an area noted for horrible traffic and lots of accidents, and she isn’t even considered high risk.
March’s next blow was a doozy. Daughter lives in a one bedroom apartment with her cat, a cat that never goes outside. Last week daughter noted that her cat was particularly droopy and was avoiding eating and was hesitant to walk on the carpeted floor. A closer look revealed that the cat and the carpets were infested with fleas. There were even fleas in her rental car. Daughter surmises she brought fleas home with her from work. She does intensive family therapy in people’s homes, and probably picked the fleas up in one of the homes. The same thing happened to her supervisor last year. Daughter had no previous experience with fleas, so this meant multiple, distressed phone calls to me, trips to the vet, constant laundry and vacuuming, and setting off flea bombs in the apartment. We are now flea free.
Daughter said that March’s events have prompted her to make positive lifestyle changes. She wants to slow down, simplify her spaces, and get rid of unnecessary things and be more orderly. She said that when she cleaned her Forester out preparatory to the insurance adjusters looking at it, she was appalled at all the junk she had there. “Mom! It looked like the Box Car Children were living in my vehicle!” She stripped down to socks and underwear outside her front door after work the other night and put her clothes directly in the washing machine. I told her she could probably strip in the bath tub for the same results and less alarm for the neighbors.
It does no good to scold someone when they are distressed, so my internal, unspoken monologue to Daughter during March has been a very constant and rapid “YOU NEED TO START TAKING YOUR G** D***** ADHD MEDICATION AGAIN!!! YOU ALWAYS DRIVE TOO FAST! SLOW DOWN! PAY ATTENTION!! THERE IS NOTHING I CAN SAY THAT IS GOING TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER RIGHT NOW. DEAL WITH IT!! HERE, TALK TO YOUR FATHER!!
It is no surprise my dentist told me yesterday that it looks like I have been grinding my teeth in the daytime. This is a recent development since my last checkup six months ago. I imagine it really increased in March. I paid attention today and noticed just how much teeth grinding I am doing. I hope that as long as Daughter sticks with her positive lifestyle changes, I can make my positive lifestyle changes and save my tooth enamel.
What has prompted, or could prompt, you to make positive lifestyle changes?