Today’s guest post comes from Jacque.

During March I experienced a lost weekend. You know the deal—one of those “where did the time go and how did I get to Sunday evening without knowing it?” kind of experiences. It was not alcohol or sex, those common perpetrators of lost weekends. It was Ancestry.com. Now that defines my age, doesn’t it?

As a child I would ask my parents, usually after getting assigned a Family Tree project for Social Studies, “What are we?”

One or the other would say, “Oh, we’re not anything. A little Irish, a little Pennsyvania Dutch, a little Norwegian. Strattons were Quakers. But we’re not anything.”

This cleared a distinct blank spot in my self-definition. We are not anything. After my lost weekend, it turns out we are the Puritans and Pilgrims, the Quakers, and the pioneers like Laura Ingalls Wilder. Now there is a peg for a child to hang her hat. A Pioneer. Like Laura Ingalls. Cool. O! Pioneer?

This round of geneology started as my husband, Lou, the Norwegian-American from Decorah, Iowa, and I began planning OUR BIG VACATION to Norway which will tentatively occur mid-April to mid-May, 2014. Since reading If I Were Going that old Reader from the third grade, I have wanted to visit Norway. Lou’s people are meticulously tracked from the farm near Stavanger, Norway through England to the Big Boat to America in 1879. I am also 1/8th Norwegian through my father’s line, but we have lost track of our people.

I am starting to think they wanted to be lost.

My father’s parents died fairly young—Grandma at age 57 and Grandpa at age 69. Dad became ill and without memory due to MS before he had much opportunity to become interested in the stories or to pass them on. His Aunts and Cousins have provided much of this to us, but it turns out they are not terribly accurate reporters. When I tried to track these folks on Ancestry.com I found myself at 1858 in Hamar, Norway with Peter Grubhoel, age 14, and his parents John and Petra Amelia Grubhoel. Somehow, they transported themselves here, but the trail has vanished. Dad used to tell us that John and Petra stowed away young Peter on the boat. I thought that was a wild story. HMMMM. Maybe that did happen.

And then while I was examining pages of passenger lists written in spidery, indistinct hand, I got distracted….

Joseph Stratton and his family around 1804 were parked on the Frontier in Ohio Territory, right under Lake Erie. He was so busy fighting the wolves and Indians that were taking his cattle and horses that his family of many children were starving. Then after the last battle, he awoke on a day in which big decisions needed to be made about how to feed the family, to find the very Indians he was fighting left a deer hanging in the tree outside the cabin door. The family did not starve. I find that a good story.

I really got distracted by Grandma’s family, the Jacksons, her Mama’s family. Nicholas Jackson came over here in 1645 to Middlesex, Massechutsetts. Wow, who knew? Then his Great-Grandson, now from upper New York state, Colonel Jeremiah Jackson fought in the French Indian War of 1763 with distinction and apparently was known as real charismatic character. Like my own father. “The Colonel” returned for an encore in 1776 for the American Revolution with three sons. They all lived through the Revolution but one was mortally injured and finally died years later of his injuries. My ancestorm Matthew Jackson, and another brother returned for the war of 1811 for duties as piper and drummer. Then they got restless and started moving West following the Frontier.

And then I came to, and it was Sunday evening and Lou is saying “What are you doing down here? I haven’t seen you all weekend!” MPR was playing reruns of PHC and This American Life. I had fallen down the rabbit hole with Alice in Wonderland and it was time to come back.

Have you had a lost weekend?

Today’s guest post comes from tim.

Hats. I like hats. I always have. I like hats like Humphrey Bogart style hats. Fedoras. I like a hamburg, which is a bankers or a lawyers hat. I like the different style of western hats available. The way a cowboy wears his headgear tells you a lot about the character of the guy under the hat. That’s true of all hats – a bucket hat from Ireland or a newsboys cap, a racing style little cap or a kangol knitted golf cap. Today the return of the 60’s stingy brim fedora is all the rage with the kids but the panama hat and the Milan straw classics form the 50’s and 60’s is what I lean towards.

Dogs, I really like dogs. I always wanted one and when I was a kid. I have had one pretty much steady for the last 40 years but the old saying about if you feel like you want to get married just go find yourself a woman you hate and give her a house and most of your money and save all the other anxiety … does have a relative statement in dog world. Just go find a best friend who is going to die and rip your heart out out every 10 years. My lab basset and my wolf dog did my heart some serious damage when they died. Today I have a fistful of dog love running around and the knowledge the other shoe is going to drop is part of the deal but still you have to remember to make a point of enjoying the moment. With kids I tend to be a bit preachy and try to teach life lessons, some of it is acknowledged most is in one ear and out the other. Dogs get less preaching, more constructive direction and lots more toleration on not quite hitting desired goals. You have to catch a dog to give him hell, not so with kids. You need to praise a dog every time they get caught doing good. That may be what I’m missing with my kids.

Back in 1968 I went into Sears surplus and saw an item I will never forget. It was a band saw with a radio in it. It struck me as funny at the time and I started laughing in the store so hard I couldn’t catch my breath. I like a band saw and I like a radio but I had to question the guy who thought they should be packaged together. A band saw rarely gets used and while its not being used a radio sure would come in handy. But the notion of putting them together struck me as so unlikely I could not believe I saw it in real life production right in front of my face. When ever I think of it, I smile again.

This is also true of dogs and hats. I like dogs and I like hats but I don’t like dogs in hats. A simple search on google will show you there is a market for dog hats and on you tube the cats do not have an exclusive when it comes to odd posts. Dogs with hats have a spot in the bandwidth also. I hope it is not the first thing intelligent creatures from another planet see when they discover electronic communication from mother earth.

What really stupid earth guy stuff would you have a hard time explaining to creatures from another planet?

Today’s guest post is from Renee Boomgaarden.

I have an image problem in my family that I am at a loss to change. I am by nature bossy and controlling. My children learned early on that they ignored my advice and expectations at their peril, not only because they would be in trouble, but because I was usually right.

After my son left for college, I knew that he had to make his own decisions, and that I had to back off, only giving advice when he asked. It wasn’t a hard transition for me. He is a sensible guy. He married a sensible wife, and together they do well. It recently became apparent, however, that Son hasn’t caught on to my changed expectations in our relationship. I guess I was supposed to make a formal announcement that he could disagree with me without fear. This misunderstanding came to light last month in Cavendish, Prince Edward Island, on a tour of the house that Lucy Maud Montgomery used as model for Green Gables, home of Marilla Cuthbert, the ultimate old bossy pants.

The author of Anne of Green Gables grew up in Cavendish within walking distance of a lovely farm house with green trim. Relatives owned the house, and young Lucy played in the forest glades around the house, turning them in the Haunted Wood and Lover’s Lane in her books. The house has been lovingly maintained. We planned to spend a day in Cavendish exploring the Green Gables site and then hitting the beautiful pink beaches just north of town. I had heard a weather report that rain and clouds were going to move in to the area in the early afternoon. My son had his heart set on the beach. His wife and I were excited about both beach and Green Gables. Husband was happy with whatever we did.

After we had toured the house and the Haunted Wood, I innocently suggested to Son that perhaps we could go to the beach in case rain set in, and then walk the Lover’s Lane trail afterward. He agreed. No one else objected. We piled into the rental car, and then the trouble began. Son caught on that his wife was worried that we wouldn’t make it back to do the Lover’s Lane trail. He got upset at me because of my “insistence” that we go to the beach immediately, and husband started muttering about my “control” issues. Son angrily turned the car around and we went back to walk the trail. I kept saying that it really didn’t matter to me, I just didn’t want people to be disappointed in the beach if it rained. I realized, then, that Son still interpreted suggestions and ideas from me as direct orders, and he felt caught between obeying me and keeping his wife happy. I got really steamed that neither Son nor Husband would believe me, so I walked by myself on the trail while they walked on ahead.

That probably didn’t help the situation.

We managed the rest of the trip through PEI and Cape Breton Island with far less drama. We really did have a great trip, but I am still thinking my way through this image problem. At least now I have a handle on the source of the trouble.

What are some key differences between the way you see yourself, and the way others see you?

Today’s guest post comes from Anna.

I am spoiled. I live in a neighborhood where a library, a good grocery store, a decent bottle of wine and hand-roasted coffee are all within a block or two from my house. A little bit of nature is also nearby in the form of Minnehaha Creek. Folks on the block know each other, watch out for each other, and share in each other’s joys and triumphs. Kids sell lemonade to folks walking their dogs. I love my neighborhood, but I miss one thing from my old digs: art.

Or to be more precise, neighborhood art.

Neighborhood art is a wonderful thing. It’s art created by and for the folks who live in a small geographic area. Anyone can enjoy it, but it is created usually with a purpose – more than just having something visually appealing in a public place. It creates community, it brings neighbors together to talk where they might not have otherwise. The resulting work, whether it is a mural or art park or traveling piece, is almost secondary. It’s a potluck and neighborhood night out rolled together with some paint or sculpture. It’s more than public art, which can be anything from a Paul Granlund sculpture on Nicollet Mall to a commissioned mural on the side of a building – those are examples of private art displayed in a public place. True neighborhood art can be harder to find, but when you do find it, it can be awesome.

Fifteen years ago I wrote about the topic in a very earnest masters thesis (which I uncovered recently, which is the only reason I know the timing). Some of the art I wrote about is no longer around – like the mural on a sound wall that separated a now torn-down housing project from the freeway. Some of it has continued – like the fish mural (now slightly faded) on the NSP sub-station in my old neighborhood. The first mural was painted by folks who lived in the housing project along with the guidance and help of professional artists; they worked together to find symbols and imagery that reflected that community and what they hoped it could be. The NSP aquarium fish, well, that was because a couple of folks thought it would be fun to turn the plain, unadorned building into something a little silly, something colorful, something that could be come a rallying point for the neighborhood. An annual fish fry happened in the park kitty-corner from the NSP station – a gathering of the neighborhood with food and music and often a fish parade because a community got together and created something silly and neighborly. And that’s the thing with neighborhood art – some of it “sticks” and some of it doesn’t. Neighborhoods change, so does the art.

Driving from my neighborhood to my daughter’s piano lesson, I drive past some whimsical wraps over traffic light switch boxes. They start and end at the boundaries of a neighborhood and have images that reflect neat stuff happening there (huge onions from the local farmer’s market and a kid riding a trike in the snow are two of my favorites). A bit east of me is a big bronze rabbit that seems to call out for clover necklaces, giant red bows at Christmas and at least once an Easter bonnet. The bunny begs to be climbed on – and climbed on he (she?) is. Neither are in my neighborhood, but I love them. Other neighborhoods’ art, out where I can appreciate it.

My neighborhood doesn’t have much in the way of art. A commissioned mural, some one-off yarn-bombings, but not bring-the-neighbors-together-to-create-it art. I miss that.

What art do you see near you? What might you create?