I think I’m a fairly upbeat person most of the time. So when I’m crabby, I really feel it. It was just one of those days where every little thing built up.
Finally got through to somebody about the dishwasher and got answers – not what I really wanted, but at least answers. My recent excellent experience with the cabinet installation did not suddenly make me think all projects would go on schedule and be hunky dory but when they showed up with the dishwasher and couldn’t de-install the old one, and couldn’t explain why to me because they didn’t have much English and my Spanish doesn’t include any electrical- or plumbing- detailed vocabulary. Did get somebody on the phone from the company who would translate, but the end is still the same. No dishwasher installed today. Plumber today. Maybe. All this has required that I change plans for lunch today. Meh.
Then I got an email from my ex-boss. I officially “start” work tomorrow, although until I have a computer and the program is ready to turn over, I won’t actually be doing anything. Meh.
My favorite tv channel hasn’t been “connecting” today. You’d think that since I’ve seen every episode of Midsomer Murders, this wouldn’t be that big a deal. I can watch old episodes on Freetevee but it’s not the best app for reception. Meh.
My stamps came from the post office today but I only got half of the order. 23 minutes on hold before Customer Service picked up. She was very nice and apologetic and the rest of the stamps should be here later this week. Meh.
I took out all my frustration on a non-person, the Xfinity survey system. After unsuccessfully trying to figure out my tv channel problem, I got an automated survey from Xfinity. If you were at Blevins on Sunday, you’re probably laughing right now (we did vent a bit about surveys during book club). I was vicious with a Zero and a No I wouldn’t recommend and No, you didn’t resolve my problem. Unfortunately I know the information will go nowhere and it didn’t actually make me feel less crabby to savage the Xfinity survey. Meh.
How to you un-crabby yourself?
I hope today is better! How do I uncrabby….? I’m still trying to find the secret to this!
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So far so good. Started by a quick trip to Dunkin’ Donuts. Plumber supposed to be here in the next 10 minutes. Fingers crossed.
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He’s here but he makes my yesterday’s crabbiness look mild. He apparently isn’t at all happy that he’s having to do yesterday’s crew’s job in addition to his own.
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At least you can understand him?
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Yes, but my natural urge to jolly up and someone is not working. I haven’t pulled out the coffee offer yet.
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Offer of coffee and then some commiseration didn’t work either. Plan B- just leave him alone…
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Swearing and loud music. Throwing things helps a bit, but then I have to go find it again and often that makes me grumpy again.
We got daughter a stand up punching bag for Christmas. She uses that often (for fun) but especially when she’s feeling angry. It’s a good outlet.
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There’s an idea!
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Isolate myself from anyone hearing me and let the F-bombs fly.
Chris in O-town
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If it’s truly uncrabby and not rage, and if I have my wits about me, I will go outside, even take a short walk, and try to see a larger version of the world. But a lot of times I’ll just be in a snit for several hours, and it’s not pretty. I can see where some elder abuse comes from, if people don’t have some kind of outlet.
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What Barb said! Add to that treat a headache which causes irritability.
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Playing with the dog helps, since he is so funny. Listening to the canons on a recording of the 1812 Overture also helps.
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When I’m really crabby, it’s kind of absurd and also a little bit fun so that crabbiness is hard to maintain.
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Say more – the fun is from… recognizing the absurdity?
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I can’t speak for Bill’s absurdity but I can speak for my own. When I look at the list of things that I felt were piling up on me yesterday, truly none of them were any kind of national emergency. So being crabby over any of it was very silly.
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I think it’s often the piling up you mention – agreed, usually no one thing makes me crabby (I’m sure there are exceptions), but a host of little things going wrong all at once will do it.
And sometimes it’s not feeling crabby, but overwhelmed. Yesterday I had some time, and managed to marshall my faculties and find a bunch of 5/10-minute tasks that I was able to accomplish. Felt good to get these little things off my plate, and today I feel like I can tackle something bigger, or at least make a new list!
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Crabbiness isa kind of self indulgence I don’t experience often. In the grand scheme of things I don’t have anything to get very crabby about. Your mileage may vary.
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I’ve talked about this before on the Trail. On television when someone is angry, they do something dramatic, like sweep everything off a desk. They never show that same person later on their hands and knees picking everything up and wondering why they did that.
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Too true Bill!
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It’s the mother in me, I guess.
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It’s best to be sure someone else will clean up the mess when you fling hamburgers with ketchup at the dining room wall.
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I am taking this morning off from work to rest and recuperate and recharge. Husband and I didn’t realize just how stressful these three months of dust, disarray, and disorder were for us until the electrician finished up yesterday. We are very happy with the end result, and everything works well.
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I completely get it. In fact, my project (if you don’t count the anxiety leading up to it) really only took five days. I’m running the dishwasher right now to make sure that it really truly works but it appears fine so far. I feel like I need several days to recover, so I’m thinking you may need even longer than that.
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I am trying not to be crabby today at the USPS for yet again not delivering the mail in our neighborhood. I saw mail carriers in other parts of town, but our neighborhood is often left undelivered.
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Ours was very spotty over the 10 to 14 days of the holidays-there was a four day streak where we got nothing. But it seems to have settled down now and we have a new carrier who comes much earlier than in the day.
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So neither snow nor rain nor heat nor gloom of night stays these couriers from the swift completion of their appointed rounds forever but on any given day it’s a tossup.
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I was thinking of this catchphrase as well during those four days but realistically if they don’t have enough people and they have people call in sick or calling because they can’t get to the post office then it’s gonna be a problem.
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A management problem or a grandiose over promise.
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When that verse was penned, no one knew how big a job it would turn out to be.
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Some of both
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Be careful what you carve in stone.
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It helps, too, if the head of the agency isn’t doing everything in his power to hamper the efficient functioning of it.
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Our service has been terribly spotty too lately. We didn’t get any mail Thursday, Friday, or Saturday last week. Yesterday we got Thursdays and Fridays. And there’s three packages I expected last week and even showed ‘out for delivery’ Now they’re “In transit” with no delivery date shown.
One night, a mail carrier came down with a box about 8:30 at night. He said he was a supervisor (I knew it wasn’t our regular guy) and he was filling in and he doesn’t even leave on the route until 1:00 PM. Sheez.
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I have had the same experience.
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I phoned the post office just now since the mail still hasn’t been delivered today, and I was told that they have new, fewer but longer delivery routes now, and we are at the end of our route, and they can stay out until 8:00 pm delivering, and if it still isn’t delivered tonight they will change the routes tomorrow and have us at the beginning of a route. I am not happy.
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I may be an outlier, but my mail delivery has been right on time. Sometimes I get stuff earlier than epected.
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A lot depends on where you live, I’m sure, but our mail delivery has been pretty decent as well, so I have no complaints.
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OT. I have a KitchenAid stand mixer and a bread machine that are going to go to Freecycle sometime this week unless a Twin Cities or Rochester or Northfield baboon has a need for one of them or a desire. Just let me know.
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I gave mine away too. I had both of those. Northfield has a “Buy Nothing” fb group.
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I was pretty crabby last week about the ways people were extolling the virtues of a community figure who died tragically and who I knew to be a toxic schnook. It is hard to bite one’s tongue for days, but I also know I would be pretty shallow and critical had I expressed my opinions.
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People might assume you had inside knowledge.
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That is true. I am the repository for many community secrets, although this person was not a patient .
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People wouldn’t necessarily know that, would they?
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No, they sure wouldn’t. I bite my tongue alot
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I’m sure your silence spoke volumes, Renee, and I think that’s a lot more genuine than heaping false accolades on someone.
I remember when Sr. Celestine, one of the teachers at the boarding school, died from cancer. Secretly, I was pleased that this bane of my school day was gone, but I had enough sense to not say that out loud. She was capricious, mean, and vindictive, and most students feared her. From our perspective it was hard to feel anything but relief that she would not be back. For all I know, at least some of her fellow nuns knew that, too, but of course, it would have been unacceptable for them to say so. Sometimes it’s just best to keep silent. Tempting as it is, not every opinion needs to be aired.
In retrospect, I wonder how long she had been ill, and whether her illness might have had something to do with her meanness. In either case, I’m glad I held my tongue at the time.
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I have been crabby since November. I really have. This winter started early, my holiday season was a total bust, a construction project that created a lot of expense began in December, now three appliances need to be replaced. Right now the construction crews are (finally) putting the siding on my unit. They tore the old siding off a week and a half ago, on the day it rained. I looked out and saw a huge damaged area at the end of a gutter above the deck. Mold and mildew and crumbling sheetrock… oh my! Before I could contact anyone, they were putting plastic vapor barrier over it. The work crews all speak Spanish. I can speak a little but not enough to explain. They did stop and got a supervisor to take a look. He said it would be replaced. They stopped all work on mine at that point and the supervisor sent them home. Poor guys were soaking wet and only wearing sweatshirts. That’s all I ever see any of them wearing! They’ve been here since mid-December, working on all the buildings here, climbing ladders, walking across icy driveways and even on icy roofs! They only take Sundays off – hard working and cheerful guys. I had a feeling they’d be back this week to fix the damage to my walls and they were here at 8 this morning. They showed me the repairs they made. I baked them some oatmeal chocolate chip cookies and I felt better when I saw their smiles. Some things don’t need language and can be cheering for everyone.
I’m going to Rochester tomorrow to pick up eggs. I don’t think I’m going to be able to meet you in Janesville Wisconsin, Wes, sorry… I’ll pick some up for you too, VS. Ben said there will be plenty. I can meet you somewhere later on Thursday or another day-whatever works.
I joined the FiftyNorth concert band. I feel very inferior playing with such accomplished musicians. Most have some professional experience. I haven’t played much flute for
45 years or so. They sent out an invitation for anyone to join, so I did. I might have been a little soft in the head that day. Meh.
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Let us know when YOUR home repairs are finished, Krista – I’ll breathe easier when I know all our baboons are cozy in safe, finished spaces. 🙂
And kudos on joining concert band – after you get used to playing again, I think it will give you a real lift to be making music.
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Thanks for your nice comments. Last April 12 we had a damaging hail storm. Roofs, siding and windows were all damaged. After several months of waiting, the roof was re-shingled in September. About a month later we were notified that the siding would also be replaced and the project would take six weeks, beginning in December and ending before the end of January. It is taking longer than that and there are nails, broken pieces of siding, sheets of vapor barrier, and other debris everywhere. I can’t get out today due to the driveway being filled with construction materials, pieces of new siding, plastic, tools, nails… I’m glad I’m retired and have nowhere to go today. I will have to get my car out of the garage before they start tomorrow so I can go to Rochester! I started my basement project in October. I wanted to seal the basement to keep secondhand cigarette smoke out of my unit. It was coming in from other units. It resulted in a home energy audit, a new furnace, insulation to R60 in the attic, and spray foam insulation in the basement. I also “painted” the floor with epoxy floor paint, sanded and painted the stairs, painted a wall. Now I’m working with a local guy to sheetrock the walls in the basement and put in a dropped ceiling. And then, all at the same time, my dishwasher, washer, and dryer all got super weird on me. Hmmpfff.
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The band is so full of really good musicians. There was no audition and I warned them I was very rusty. They have all been so welcoming, helpful and nice.
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Have you managed to eliminate the second-hand smoke that used to seep in through your basement?
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I think so. I’m smelling something like burned plastic down there today – not sure where that is coming from. I haven’t smelled cigarette smoke for awhile. If we get a really strong northwest wind and I don’t smell it, I’ll be able to say “problem solved!” It certainly should be sealed now. You should see how thick that spray foam insulation is!
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They’re supposedly coming to pick up the old dishwasher on Thursday but they won’t give me any kind of a window. So we can play Thursday by ear or Friday morning????
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Friday would be great
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I take a nap.
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And there is always music.
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I am reminded by PJ’s food-flinging comment above that when I was student teaching, I lived with two other student teachers. In our wisdom, toward the end of the term, we invited all three of our host teachers for a spaghetti dinner in our 3rd-floor attic walk-up. One was in her 60s, the others in their 30s-40s. It was awkward, both logistically and conversationally, but we all survived it, tho’ the tension was pretty thick at times, for us at least. After they left, we just collapsed in laughter and ended up throwing leftover spaghetti (not yet sauced) on the kitchen wall. It really was cathartic, and harmless, but of course a mess to clean up later.
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