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Trust

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Wednesday I was at work sitting at my computer on a Teams meeting (it is like Zoom) when a call came up on my work phone. I could see from the caller ID it was from a 60+ year old friend of ours who lives with her very elderly mother. Her mother has declined in health significantly but expects our friend to maintain a huge yard and vegetable garden without the benefit of ever teaching her how to garden. She has never phoned me at work before, and I was worried something calamitous had happened to her mother.

It was very hot here Wednesday. Our friend had a simple question. Could she water the vegetable garden with the oscillating sprinkler? We had steered her away from sprinklers and encouraged her to get soaker hoses to avoid the fungus and waste of water that comes from aerial sprinklers. This she has done, but her garden is so large she was afraid parts would suffer with the slow pace of soaker hoses. I told her of course, use the sprinkler, but not on the tomatoes or the peas, as they are so prone to fungus and mildew. I get calls from her like this all the time.

Our friend trusts us implicitly regarding her garden, even when our advice is contrary to the somewhat goofy ways her mother has gardened in the past. I guess what we advise makes sense, because the questions keep coming. Sometimes I am amazed how absurd my life is.

What can people trust you to do or help them with? Who do you trust implicitly?

19 thoughts on “Trust”

  1. I’ve learned, far too late, to listen and affirm, more than to talk and advise. When the question asked of me is unclear, I seek first to help the person asking to get to a clear question. When I have to ask for advice, I try to get MY question clear. But mainly, I try to affirm rather than advise. I’ve been too wrong too much of the time.

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  2. I have neighbors and friends who have taken such good care of me and my animals this past years, saved me when I fell and knocked myself unconscious and took me to the hospital where I was diagnosed with anaplasmosis tick disease. Yesterday I was busy in town all day and when I came home discovered one of them had put up the cattle panels for my horse pen. They have to come down so he can plow and pile the snow there (so high SO high this last winter). I am so blessed by all of them. 

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  4. I’m pretty good at giving financial advice. Nothing fancy, just basic money management and investments. I “think” I have a reputation for being honest to a fault, so most people know I wouldn’t steer them wrong. Of course, I don’t do it for a living anymore, so it’s kind of a moot point.

    Chris in Owatonna

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  5. I sit in on my sister-in-law’s meetings with her financial advisor. Although not an attorney, I handled my wife and her sisters family estate in probate. I administered my parents’ estate on behalf of my brother and sister, while our parents were living and after they passed away. Trust isn’t something you can grant to just anyone. I was honored, humbled, and you might think I would have learned enough to recognize who I can trust to do those things for me and Linda when we can no longer do them ourselves. Regrettably, that day has not yet arrived.

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  6. Rise and Shine, Baboons

    This morning I find I cannot trust my credit card’s app which did not let me in to pay the bill (yes, I had the right password🤯) so I had to call CS. Now I am crabby and frustrated. I told the CS rep that the system was making it very difficult to pay my bill. 😬.

    I don’t think I trust anyone with everything. Trusting my husband to remember anything is a mistake. He has never had a great memory. But I do trust him to tend to our vehicles.

    I can be trusted to keep someone’s confidences, whether professionally as a therapist or personally as a friend. Growing up in a gossipy small town I witnessed the destructiveness of spreading “news” about people. I really try not to be part of that unless someone asks me to.

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  7. I can be trusted to respond quickly to emails. I get on the computer (largely because it’s easily accessible) several times a day…

    I’ve learned that almost everyone can be trusted with some kinds of information, but it depends on their skills and interests – how deeply they’re involved with whatever it is we share. It also depends on how well they know themselves and their own motives. I’ve thought a lot about this because the person I considered my best friend here a couple of years ago suddenly decided I could not be trusted, and I lost that relationship.

    There are very few that I trust with everything.

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  8. I trust Monty Python. Adapting a famous scene from Holy Grail, it has been determined that Special Counsel Jack Smith has been conducting a witch hunt against #45. The conclusion is that XXXpresident Donny weighs the same as a duck.

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  9. I’m good with others secrets. There are very few things that I like to give advice about – I don’t consider myself a serious expert on anything. And there’s so many ways to do things, just because I like to do something a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the best. A Vincent Price line in the movie Laura “I don’t know a lot about anything but I know a little about almost everything.” I’ve always resonated to this line.

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