Today’s post comes from Barbara in Rivertown
Last spring when we were down in Winona to sign a purchase agreement, a Winona friend of mine took me to a “woman’s party” where she knew I would meet new people that I might enjoy knowing. I was so pleased, because some of my best friends from Winona had moved away during our 30 years away, and I thought this would be a great way to meet some possible future friends. When I got back that night I wrote down as many women’s names as I could remember, and something about them that might jog my memory later.
Fast forward eight months… I have been joining (or saying yes to) “everything in sight” in order to find my niche in this sort-of-new place. I am happy to report that I now find people I recognize – several of whom I met at that spring party – at t’ai chi, Nia (at the Y), book club(s), the library, UU gatherings and choir, farmers’ market… You get the idea. I am starting to step up to the plate and take on small responsibilities, i.e. a women’s group that will meet this Sunday, for which I will take the minutes. (Unfortunately this means I will miss the babooners’ BBC again…)
I now need to put on the breaks a bit, and start saying no once in a while.
When do you say “Yes”, and when do you say “No”?