Husband stopped working on the Reservation in March, and he became increasingly agitated and scattered as the weeks passed as he adjusted to retirement. He was running around doing all sorts of things at home and around town, and was so exhausted by noon he had to take a nap every day. He talked of getting a part time job at the local butcher shop. It finally dawned on me that he thought that even though he was retired, he had to be as busy as I was working full time. When I mentioned to him that retirement meant he should be doing less than I was doing, he got quiet, sat down, thought for a long time, and then started writing. He wrote:
When you are retired, how much you do matters far less than how well and how lovingly you do it.
I told him those were pretty good words for him to live by right now. He still is busy, but I don’t think he worries so much now about needing to work like he is still working full time.
What are your words to live by for right now?
Trail Baboon 
“It is what it is”
No, not really.
I hear that phrase often in construction and more recently used by Trump.
It is such a cop out!
No responsibility. No solutions. Throw your hands up and walk away.
I prefer “Let me help”.
Sometimes little can be done to remedy a problem but at least express a willingness to try.
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In grad school my mantra was “I just need to pass”.
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Great topic, Renee – for one, a friend posted this on Facebook early on:
“Do more of whatever makes you feel like yourself again.”
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This too shall pass. (?)
Chris in Owatonna
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Another friend asked people to send her advice for living in general, and during Corona virus – here are some results:
Living your life:
Switch out from your own world.
Turn it upside down and see the possibilities.
If it’s not right, turn left. (from a Dove chocolate wrapper)
Encourage your hopes, not your fears.
You can accomplish anything, as long as you’re willing to work.
You can be weak or strong; the amount of work is the same.
There are a million people out there who would trade places with you and your life…without asking a thing about either.
If you’re cranky, do a kindness for another; you’ll feel happier yourself.
For these days of the coronavirus:
The Serenity prayer.
Remember to breathe.
Love is not cancelled. Seen on The Pump House arts venue sign.
Err on the side of humanity.
The Bible says, “And it came to pass.” But it doesn’t say, “It came to stay.”
And if all else fails, at least remember this: Never kick a skunk.
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now
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Try to do your best, but then forgive yourself when you fall short.
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Everything would make sense if only I had a motto.
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If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. Another one is: When you find yourself in a hole, quit digging.
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Afternoon- those are all some good words to live by.
I just keep thinking “This too shall pass”. And ‘One Day at a Time’.
Just Breath. That’s a good one; I tell students that often. Have to remind myself sometimes too.
Here’s something – Just had another friend tell me their relationship fell apart. They had dated and then lived together for a few months. That’s three young people telling me how hard it is to find anyone these days. And boy I don’t envy them at all.
Got any words of advice for them?
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Don’t give up – there’s someone out there, somewhere. : ) (Easy for me to say…)
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watch out what you wish for
it’s ok to talk to yourself
it’s even ok to argue with yourself
as long as you don’t lose the arguments
add a partner and that doesn’t work anymore
the whole worlds all screwed up except you and me and i’m beginning to have my doubts about you
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Here’s a couple from Eckhart Tolle –
– Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy.
– Do I want the present moment to be my friend or my enemy?” …. Become friendly toward it, welcome it no matter in what disguise it comes, and soon you will see the results.
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All things that you want people to do to you, you also must do to them.
Sorta familiar.
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I sometimes have told people trying to make psychological diagnoses “If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it is a duck”. Sometimes newbies try to get fancy with diagnoses.
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I’m kind of crabby today. Wearing a metaphorical black arm band. YA and I did drive up to Vadnais Heights and have fair food in the Cub parking lot, but my goodness not even on a par.
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What a disappointment!
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Yeah. I know it was the right decision to make but today is still kind of melancholy.
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Good grief….Wordpress hasn’t “anonymoused” for awhile.
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too bad
what are you hankerings for
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Well if this is my true fantasy that I’m hankering for no Covid, no 45 and especially for a state fair.
We had cheese curds, four kinds, mini donuts and fresh squeezed lemonade today up in Vadnais heights in the Cub parking lot.
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4 kinds of cheese curds? different makers or different cheeses?
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From a stone in a garden in my neighborhood: “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.”
This is in the same garden that had the stone that said “Introverted, but willing to discuss plants.” I don’t know this person, but I like him/her.
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go knock on the door and tell them you’re here to discuss plants . bring wine
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Maybe when COVID-19 passes into history.
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Our neighbor takes a walk every evening with a glass of wine.
If I liked to walk better, I’d be tempted to meet them.
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nice fouce
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Words to live by…Live. Laugh. Love. ….😊
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